Most of the iceberg is hidden below the surface of the water and we only notice the bit poking out of the icy depths. A large piece of ice found floating in the open ocean. Think of anger like an iceberg, a bit like the one that fatefully sank the Titanic. Our heart rate speeds up and a rush of hormones – including adrenaline – creating a surge of energy strong enough to take “vigorous action.” In this way, anger has been ingrained into our brain to protect us yet we seem to have so many problems with anger. In his book Emotional Intelligence, Goleman tells us that anger causes blood to flow to our hands, making it easier for us to strike an enemy or hold a weapon. Those are very specific issues which require a different set of understanding and tools.)īut have you ever wondered why we get angry? According to psychologist Daniel Goleman, “emotions are, in essence, impulses to act, the instant plans for handling life that evolution has instilled in us.” Which sounds wonderfully logical and simple on paper but when we get the chemical flood of emotion its much more difficult. (Additionally I want to clarify this blog is about ANGER not to be confused with abuse or narcissism. Or people try and push it so far down they become depressed and continually try to keep the peace while internally seething and again the issues remain unresolved. People either wield it so broadly it takes out everyone in its path and nothing is resolved. Its one of those emotions most people struggle with, we often confuse anger with aggression or an emotion which breaks down relationships.
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